How Women of Color Face Racism on Online Dating Apps

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“If you accept the premise that most people are people of goodwill, which I think is reasonable, I don’t think people are adopting these preferences because they really dislike other races or out of a racial thing,” says Rudder. “But it’s just a thing that happens because of the way the culture is set up—the way whiteness or blonde-ness, or whatever, is glorified in the media, for example, and entertainment—and they’ve absorbed it, consciously or otherwise.”

It feels a bit simplistic to conclude that men racially profile more openly than women based on a handful of interviews, and, indeed, Tessler confirms that. “I think men and women are equally superficial about race and about other things,” she says. “Men care a ton about women’s weight. Women care a ton about men’s height. They both care a ton about how white you are.”

Tessler suggests we approach racism in the dating world in the same way that Bumble focused on the harassment of women. “They built an app especially around that problem,” she says. “I don’t think that this is going to be fixed without someone doing something like that, specifically starting a dating app or a dating company addressing it.”

Rudder is less optimistic. “There is no way to change racism in dating without changing it outright in every way,” he says. “This is depressing, but it shouldn’t be a revelation.”

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