Parents, I Was Smug About Your Videos of Your Children. I’m Sorry.

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I would like to apologize to all the parents I mocked for taking videos at elementary school performances and soccer games a couple of decades ago when my children — and theirs — were young. I can remember exchanging eye-rolls with friends or with my husband when some mommy or daddy with a big state-of-the-art video camera popped up in the row in front of me at a school assembly, or pushed through the crowd to run up and down the soccer sidelines following the ball.

Who on earth would ever watch those videos, we wondered. How sad, we said to one another, to see the big moment through a viewfinder. We didn’t own a video camera, and we were a bit smug about it; we were the parents who actually watched the soccer game, or the play, who participated in the party instead of filming it.

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Meet the Woman Behind the New App That Takes ‘Sorry’ Out of Your Emails

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For  Tami Reiss, the inspiration for Just Not Sorry—the new app she created that aims to stop women from resorting to undermining phrases in emails—was all over her inbox.

When installed as a Chrome extension, the app underlines words like “just,” “sorry,” “I think,” and “does this make sense” in shame-y crimson red digital ink. Already, thousands have downloaded the plug-in.

“It came to me from a variety of places,” Reiss says. “One, I like to build things that actually help people. Two, years ago, I did this influencer training and part of what we learned there was about what they called structural influence…which is that you can create an environment that supports positive change. It’s like, ‘Don’t put a stumbling block in front of a blind person,’ but the opposite. How do you create an environment that helps people know what they should be doing? How do you make it easy for them to make good choices?” Reiss looked around at the data and the op-eds and the shampoo ads and that Amy Schumer skit and at a million more meditations on how and why women say they’re sorry. And she decided to do something about it.

See also this counterpoint, excerpted from the article “The Just Not Sorry app is keeping women trapped in a man’s world”:

I’m sorry to do this to you but this is yet another piece on “Just Not Sorry” because I just don’t quite get it, apologies. I know you’re busy, so I’ll keep it brief. Here is my problem: when did being polite become a bad thing?